I’ve been on both sides—as a working mom and a stay at home mom. Currently I’m in between which is a mom working from home.
LIFE AS A WORKING MOM
I have to say that whether you stay at home or work outside the home is a family decision. Personally for me, I’ve always enjoyed being a working mom. It helped provide structure to my day and allowed me to feel more independent since I was contributing financially. I felt like I had the best of both worlds. But if you take into account daycare costs and not always being there for my kids, I don’t know if it was worth working outside of the home. Since I was so focused at work, I admit that my home life was suffering.
LIFE AS A STAY AT HOME MOM
When I decided to quit my job and stayed at home full time that was a MAJOR adjustment for me, especially living on one income. I was depressed for a couple of months, until I was able to structure my schedule at home. Like any changes in your life, you have to be able to adjust to whatever new situation that is in front of you.
Once I got the hang of being at home, I realized it was MORE WORK to be at home. Even if I wasn’t contributing financially, there was always something to do at home or with the kids. There’s no breaks when you are with your children 24/7, until they go to school of course. As a stay at home mom, you have to make friends with other moms / parents so you can take a break from being with your kids. Your friends also make a great support group.
As a stay at home mom, I was more aware of my finances and cut extra spending by not buying things for myself which was such a disappointment for a mom who enjoyed shopping. No more shopping for clothes, shoes, purses. Everything was about my family now. I also had to get creative with dinners and keep the ingredients simple and easy to make.
Once I got used to the stay at home life, I’m once again put into a situation where I need to contribute financially.
My husband and I have made the decision that we prefer having one parent to be with the children when they get home from school. When I ask my kids if they prefer me working outside of the home or being at home, they always say that they prefer me being at home. How can I disappoint my kids by wanting to go back to work?
LIFE AS A WORK AT HOME MOM
So I’m trying to make my current situation work. It’s good to be able to make some extra money while at home. I’m trying to do my best to find online jobs and work on projects that I can do from home.
The challenge of working at home is setting work hours since I’m constantly working. I’d prefer to work outside of the home since it gives me more structure and I can leave the work at work.
In the end, I decided that my family / kids have higher priority than work so I’ll enjoy my time with them while my kids are still young and want me around. 🙂 Working at home gives me the flexibility to pick up my kids from school.
Unfortunately I tend to focus on work while at home which isn’t fair to the family. That’s my main problem of working at home—I tend to work too much. It’s a constant balancing act.
If you choose to be a stay at home mom / dad, a working mom / dad, or a work at home mom / dad, I applaud you because you are all MOTHERS / FATHERS and a PARENT. Each scenario poses different challenges. No parent is better than the other. We are parents doing the best we can given the situation we are currently in.
As parents we are always hard on ourselves because we want to provide our kids the best of everything. But when you do that, there is a tendency of comparing yourself to other parents who seem to be doing it correctly. Remember to try not to compare yourself to other parents. The grass isn’t greener on the other side. Everyone has their own challenges. Focus on what you can do for your family. I applaud each parent for doing the best they can.